She has a special birthday trip to Nashville planned next week, and she’s considering rearranging the invite list. She caught her cousin talking trash about her sister on TikTok, and now she wants to uninvite her from the trip.
So how should she approach this situation?
Hey Bert Show!
My sister is getting married this October and there’s drama.
I’m friends with my cousins, but I have gotten close with one cousin in particular these past couple years & everyone kind of thought it was weird since no one really likes this cousin, but I thought I would give her a chance. (bad choice, I guess). Let me explain.
This cousin started dating someone who I grew up with that I see as a “brother”, but we are not related. He always came to family get-togethers growing up, so the whole family knows him (aunts, uncles, grandparents & my other cousins). My immediate family is closer to this brother figure, so naturally they reached out to him about the wedding instead of our cousin. If I hadn’t gotten to be friends with her these past few years, I would have naturally reached out to him too. Apparently, she had a problem with one of my sisters reaching out to him and not her. Why? I don’t know. Could it be jealousy?
Well, fast forward to this specific sister’s wedding coming up, and my cousin had originally RSVP’d no. She had made a TikTok about my sister that has now been deleted. Once I saw this TikTok, I was furious and didn’t know how to approach it or how to even tell my sister. I figured since she already said she wasn’t going, why would I bring this unnecessary drama into my sister’s life with the wedding being so close? I haven’t reached out to my cousin about this video because I wanted to reach out to my sister first, and I honestly don’t even want to hear her reasoning for making & posting this TikTok. I just want to punch my cousin in the face. Recently she changed her RSVP to yes, and I was not going to let this tiktok be in the shadows any longer. My sister actually found out about the TikTok by someone else, but she hasn’t seen it, because it was deleted (gotta love screen recording). I sent it to my sister, and she was livid and she told my cousin she was not allowed to change her RSVP because it was too late. My cousin still doesn’t know that my sister or I know about the tiktok. My sister said that she isn’t going to waste her breath on my cousin and that if I want to or want to still even be friends with my cousin, that she won’t look at me sideways.
I do have a trip to Nashville planned for my birthday next week, and my cousin was invited before this whole TikTok mess. She’s already paid for the Airbnb, and I don’t want to have this conversation the weekend of my trip. Obviously, I have to talk to her before, but I’m not really sure how to approach it because I don’t want to give her the money she paid for the trip back because it will come out of my pocket, and why should I pay extra? Bert show please help!