Her husband has always been suspicious of what she does and who she spends time with. But recently, she found out he took his suspicions to the extreme!
He asked their seven-year-old daughter to SPY on her! He asked her to eavesdrop on conversations, record audio, and report everything back to him.
She’s PISSED and isn’t sure how to handle this situation. What should she do?
Here’s her email:
Help, Bert Show. I’m furious. I just found out that my husband has been using my kids to spy on me. They are too young to even understand they have been recruited. My husband has always been very paranoid. He has always questioned me and is always suspicious of what I’m doing and who I’m spending time with. I’ve never given him any reason at all to suspect that I would do anything wrong, but he is just so incredibly paranoid. I just found out that he has taken it all to the next level.
Over fall break, I took my kids on a beach trip with friends. My husband wasn’t able to come because of work. This seems to be a common situation. So, three other moms of my daughter’s friends and one single dad of her friend all decided to take the girls to the beach. This dad is an incredible dad and works hard to make sure his daughter doesn’t miss out on things just because her mom isn’t in her life. So, of course, we invited them to come. We offered to take her if he didn’t want to hang out with a bunch of moms all week. However, he wanted to be there with his daughter. So, we all rented a large house so that each family had their own room.
Unfortunately, my paranoid and jealous husband had an issue with it. He did not like me being in a house with another man for a week without him. Of course, it didn’t matter that there was also three other moms and a half dozen kids. There was zero reason for him to feel this way, but that’s just him. He was so paranoid that he recruited my 7 year old to spy on me. Yesterday, my daughter asked me if Daddy had given me my surprise yet? When I questioned her more about the “surprise,” she told me that she didn’t really know what the surprise was, but that “Daddy needed her help.” He told her he was planning something special for me, but needed her to give him some information and not to tell me. She was supposed to give him lots of information about what I was doing every minute. She had to tell him who I was with and if I was ever alone with any of the grownups. He also asked her to sneak in rooms and listen to the conversations I was having with the other grownups. He even showed her how to record audio on her phone. He would call and check in with her multiple times a day to get information.
I’m so angry on so many levels for so many reasons. I just don’t know what to do or how I can trust him not to use our daughter for his own paranoia. I’m hoping someone in your audience knows how to handle a spouse who is unnecessarily jealous and paranoid.