You connected with someone, and you two started dating. But they’re starting to show their true colors, and you’re not certain if you should continue dating them or not – and that’s where we come in! Tell us your situation, and we’ll tell you if you should ditch or continue dating the person.
They’ve been dating for two months, and she thinks it’s time for him to meet her parents. But he’s not ready to take that step. Is this a red flag or not? We discuss.
Her email reads…
Hi guys,
So, Jacob and I have been dating for about 2 months. I guess I would call it a “relationship”. I know every relationship is different and I shouldn’t compare ours to other relationships. However, it’s really hard when all my friends seem to have these happy long term boyfriends that they have had for years. This one with Jacob is only my second relationship. My last boyfriend, my family and I had known since we were babies. So, I can’t really compare my current issue with Jacob to that situation. And since I’m obviously self-conscious about not having relationship success like my friends, I don’t want to talk to them about any issues I may be having with Jacob. So, I’m coming to you for your opinions.
I need to know when it becomes a red flag that he doesn’t want to meet your family. How long into the relationship should I expect him to meet them? Like I mentioned, we’ve been together for 2 months. A few weeks ago, I asked him if he wanted to come to my parents’ house for dinner. I was eager to introduce them to him. I have a really close relationship with my mom and dad. For me, it seems odd having these 2 parts of my life separate. However, when I asked if he’d come to dinner with me, he said no. He said it seemed a bit fast to be meeting the parents. Well, now it’s been a few more weeks and I asked him again. He still said no. I asked when he thought it would be the right time, and he said he didn’t know, but it wasn’t now.
So, is this a red flag that he isn’t serious about me or a future? Or some other red flag? Unless I’m wrong…. Is 2 months too soon to expect someone to meet my parents? If it is, when is the appropriate time to expect it? 4 months? 6? Is it years?
Thanks for the input! Love you guys.