A lot of white people are trying to be allies right now…but maybe trying too hard, or trying in a way that’s just not helpful.
Your heart is in the right place, and that’s commendable. We know you want to help, and nobody wants you to stop trying. This is a period of time that’s all about listening, learning, trying, readjusting your tactics, learning some more, and trying again. It’s not just you.
And to help you out, (besides reading Kristin’s recommended book “So You Wanna Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo – it’s also available in audiobook format), Moe’s got a list of all the things you – as white people – shouldn’t be doing.
~ Don’t send Black people videos of other Black people expressing what it’s like to be black. We know…that video is for YOU.
~ Don’t bring up the one successful Black person you know to try to convince all Black People that racism does not exist.
~ Just because you can’t see racism around you doesn’t mean it’s not happening. Trust Black people’s assessment of a situation.
~ Never try and tell a Black person what is or isn’t racist. Don’t argue with Black people about their opinion on what racism is. Trust us, we know.
~ Life is not in Black and White….Don’t say I don’t see Color….Yes you do.
~ Please stop saying you’re exhausted from dealing with racism. I know it’s been a tough three weeks but I promise you it’s been a tougher 400 years.
~Please stop using Black emojis…White fist are great, too.
~Please stop inviting Black people to dinner or to your home at this moment. Black people did not just come out, it feels trendy.
~Please don’t say it’s not my job to fix racism because I’m not racist…I’m not racist, either, but here I am.
~ Don’t remix songs with Martin Luther King speeches in it. Just don’t.
~ Please stop touching other women’s hair. Just don’t.
~ Please stop saying things like it didn’t happen to you or anyone you know. That’s irrelevant.
~ Please don’t say that slavery was a blessing. I don’t know why I have to say that but apparently I do.
~ Please stop saying you understand what we are going through. It’s okay not too.
~ Saying “I don’t have white privilege” is having white privilege.
~ Please don’t attempt to tell Black people how to deal with being Black. You just don’t get to do that, that within itself is White Privilege.