Buckle up because this was a story we were not prepared for. Our listener’s husband just confessed to using her “toys.” She was excited until she found out he uses a “toy” that’s molded after her late husband!
Should she tell him or say nothing?
She didn’t tell her husband about the toy. Instead, she’s devised a plan to get rid of it. Listen!
Hey Bert Show! I need advice. I’ve been stewing over this for days and I don’t know what to do, HALP! I don’t even know where to start with this!
Ok, so my husband of 10 years and I were having piano talk, and he told me something that he’s been holding back for our whole marriage. I could tell it was a big deal that he’d been secretly holding onto this for a long time, so I did my best to be a super supportive space for him. Apparently, he enjoys playing with “toy pianos” by himself occasionally. He even confessed to using one of my bigger toy pianos that I told him I can’t use anymore because I have a sensitivity. Just to be clear, I do not have a problem whatsoever with the fact that he’s used toy pianos, as a matter of fact, it’s kind of exciting to me.
But I lied all those years ago about why I didn’t use that particular toy piano anymore. You see, my first husband passed away 15 years ago and for a long time, my now husband felt very intimidated by the love I obviously still had for him. I lied because that particular toy piano was actually a mold of my first husband’s actual piano and I felt like it would be cheating to use that one. I also didn’t want to tell him because my husband now is average sized, but my late husband was the type that you make a mold of, and I didn’t want him to feel inadequate. Guys, I don’t know what to do!?!? I can’t tell him this, right? I don’t know how he would ever get past it! He was already questioning his, um, piano-ality? This would break him. But it’s kinda breaking me right now, and he can tell that I can’t get something out of my head, and I’m really hoping he doesn’t think it’s me freaking about him using toy pianos because it’s not. But I seriously have no idea what to do with this. And now that he’s told me this, what if he wants to play with it again with me this time?
Y’all need to tell me what to do here. I’m struggling!