Our listener is in his first post-college relationship with a woman. So far, their relationship has been great. But he’s been keeping a secret from her and isn’t sure how to break the news.
So how does he tell his girlfriend he used to date men in college?
I need some opinions from the women of The Bert Show. I need to know how you’d react to knowing this info about a new potential relationship, OR how you’d react if he hadn’t told you and then you found out?
So, I recently graduated college, and the real world has started for me. While I had a few relationships in college, none of them lasted and followed me beyond graduation. I think that is a good thing because I did a lot of self exploration in the past several years, and I am a very different person now than I was then, which is part of the issue.
I’m in my first post-college relationship with an awesome woman. We’ve been seeing each other for about
2 weeks, and it’s been great. It really feels effortless. We’ve not met each other’s family or friends. However, I assume that will be coming soon. Obviously, friends and family know a lot about a person and certainly would know about something significant. So, I think she is likely to hear and find out that she is the first woman I have dated in a while. I had 2 relationships in college, but both were with other men. However, even while I was in those relationships, I questioned if that was where I should be. At the time, I had a preference for men, but also always had an attraction and desire to be in a relationship with a woman. I was very open about my relationships back then and never felt the need to hid them. However, I’m questioning if I should keep this info from her. I’m not ashamed of who I was. I’m just not sure how she will feel about it. Will it weird her out, will she want to be in a relationship with me? Will she always doubt my attraction for her?
So, is this part of my past something I need to tell her before I start a relationship with her?