She’s been married for six months, and the last thing she’s ready for is kids. However, her husband is eager to start a family. She’s not ready for this drastic change. So she has a plan to curb his enthusiasm.
She volunteered herself and her husband to watch her best friend’s kids over the weekend. She hopes this will be an eye-opening experience, and he’ll change his mind about having kids.
Will her plan work?
Her plan has been set in motion. Will she end up regretting it?
As we expected, her plan backfired. Her husband enjoyed every minute of their weekend with her friend’s kids. Now what?
The last thing we expected was for her to change her mind about having kids. But now, it looks like she’s on board.
My husband and I have been married for about 6 months. He’s already wanting to start having kids. I am not. I want to enjoy being married for a while. I grew up with younger brothers, sisters, cousins, etc. I also nannied for several years, and I have several friends with young kids. I know how hard it can be and how much of a dramatic shift in our lifestyle it will be. I do want kids, but not now! I want to focus on us and our careers. I want to relax, set up a house, work on our finances, travel…. He seems extremely naïve to how difficult it will be. He keeps putting pressure on me and almost seems annoyed that I’m not ready to jump right into parenthood. I know he sees it as the next thing on the path of life. I’ve tried to explain to him how babies and kids are not easy and fun in the way that he thinks they are. I know they are wonderful, but he doesn’t realize how exhausting it is and how much it affects every aspect of your life. His response is that “we’re smart people and can figure it out.” He says, “we just have to be organized and plan ahead.”
I need a way to show him how wrong he is. So, I have an idea, but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea or if it could potentially backfire. My best friend has a 3 year old and a 9 month old. I spend enough time with her to see how much of a handful they are. I also know that her 9 month old has been waking up several times a night and she’s exhausted because of it. I’m not sure if she will take me up on it, but I want to offer to give her and her husband the entire weekend to get away while my husband and I watch both kids from Friday to Sunday night. I think it could be really eye opening for my husband. My only concern is that this somehow backfires. Should I attempt it? What do you think?