A few years ago, she and her husband separated. They moved away from one another and started dating new people. But when it was time for her to file for divorce, she was hesitant.
So the two decided to end their relationship and give their marriage a second chance. But she’s still in love with her ex.
So what does she do?!
Here’s her email:
I left my husband, in 2019 after pleading for a separation. We sold our home, I got my own place & Scott moved in with a friend.
He (reluctantly) & I, both agreed to divorce, & both immediately jumped into committed relationships with other people. Finally, after 10 months of complete separation & co-parenting, I contacted a divorce attorney. Divorce documents were drafted and agreed to, but neither of us ever legally signed the documents.
As our new relationships became more serious, concern gradually developed on our obvious hesitation to file. I was planning a life with someone new, all while I avoided finalizing the life I once had — I wasn’t sure why I continued to avoid signing “the papers”, but soon found my new relationship in jeopardy. I was happy in my new relationship and was eager to make a life with him. We were planning to buy a home, and had even discussed having children of our own.
But, I was under immense pressure and decided that I had to risk losing him in order to figure out my hesitation to divorce. After discussing a “marriage re-attempt” with Scott, he immediately broke off all ties in his relationship, as did I in mine. It’s been four months & we’ve been together since. Everything has been fine – Scott’s definitely happy – it’s like a “2nd honeymoon” if you will….
EXCEPT…. I’m still in love with my EX. I think about him each and every day. I can barely resist reaching out to him. I miss everything about him, and I miss the future we were planning together. I’m content with Scott, but I’m not the “happy” I finally was while I was with my EX. I love Scott, but I’m no longer in-love with him, or am I? Is it possible to be in love with 2 people at once? I don’t want to hurt him, and like I said, I’m content. Do I stick it out, settle for content, or do I tell him the truth, that my heart is still very much with my EX? Would it hurt him more if I were honest, or if he found out later that I had kept this from him? Has it simply not been enough time attempting to rekindle my feelings for him? Is being hesitant to finalize a divorce normal, especially when it’s cordial? Is there a good route to approaching the conversation or should I focus on his feelings and continue to ignore my own?
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