On multiple occasions, she has caught her boyfriend on the phone with someone addressing them as “kitten” and “sweetheart.” One day she asked him who he was speaking to, and he said his mother.
Should she tell her boyfriend that she’s creeped out by this?
Dear Bert Show,
Okay…I’ve been dating “John” for 6 months. He’s great. Really cool. No red flags. It’s been awesome. All that changed 2 days ago. I’m trying real hard to explain this all away and justify it, but I just can’t. My mind can’t seem to be okay with this. So, I’m coming to you guys. Find a way to convince me that this isn’t that bad or that weird. Help me figure out how not to throw away a perfectly good relationship because of something that creeps me out.
So, 2 days ago, I overheard my boyfriend make a phone call. I didn’t realize that’s what he was doing because I heard him talking to someone or what I thought was something. I came into the room because I heard him say…”Hi Kitten”. Naturally, I assumed some type of stray had wandered into the kitchen. I walked in the kitchen to find no cat, but he was on the phone. I immediately looked at him confused and mouthed the words…”Who are you talking to.” He replied… “my mom”. I honestly didn’t believe him and got a little paranoid. I mean, who calls their mom, Kitten. So I pretended that I needed to ask her something and asked if I could talk to her for a second. He handed me the phone. Sure enough…it was his mom. So, I just asked her to send me some random recipe and handed the phone back to him.
Then, we were in the car and she called. He answered with…. “Hey Sweetheart.” Um…. That isn’t normal right? You don’t call your own mother Kitten and sweetheart. It’s all just so weird. I don’t even know what to say to him about it. Do I tell him it’s weird? Should I say it creeps me out and I need it to stop? Help!