According to the Urban Dictionary, the Bro Code is “A set of rules meant to be a guideline to live by between Bros.” Our Bert Show listener doesn’t seem to be familiar with the bro code and reached out to The Bert Show for some help.
He’s been out of the dating pool for a while and thinks that he could be a little rusty with the rules of the whole thing. He’s familiar with the bro code being a thing of his teenage memory, however, he isn’t sure if the rules still apply in his 20s.
So, I can imagine you’re wondering, “what bro code could he be having an issue with?”
He has the hots for his best friend’s sister!
Every time that he sees her, she flirts with him, and of course, he flirts back.
He really wants to ask her out but he’s not exactly sure if he should ask his friend first, just to be sure that he’ll be cool with it.
Moe, who has three sisters says that if it were him, and his friends didn’t ask him or talk to him about it first, then he would be offended.
“For me… that’s what it depends on. How close are we as friends? If you’re my guy, like, my best friend, one of my best buddies, I would be offended by even the ask… the way we grew up with my really close friends, and I’m talking about my close friends; My sister is your sister. That’s how I see her, that’s how I’ll always see her. So, to know that you’re even looking at my sister that way, it would bother me.”
Here’s his email,
I need the rules of dating. I’m a little rusty because I was in a way too long term situation. Now that I’m out of it, I’m ready to jump back into the dating world. I’m just not sure of what the rules of dating are these days. Are they different in your 20s than when they are in your teens? I know in high school, it wouldn’t be cool at all to hook up with or date a friend’s sister. Like, that could never happen. You had to stick with your bros no matter what and never let a girl in between. Do those kind of rules change when you reach your mid 20s? Does a dude really care if you make a move on his sister? Cause I’m wondering if it would be okay to ask out a friend’s sister. Every single time that I see her out at my friend’s happy hours and stuff, she flirts with me constantly. I definitely flirt back. I want to ask her out. I’m not sure if I need to ask my buddy if he is cool with it. Or, will he be pissed for me even asking? Does this violate some kind of code or dating rule? What do you think?