Six months ago, she started dating a wonderful man. But since this relationship, started she has noticed a change in her best friend.
Is there a possibility her best friend is jealous of her?
Here’s her email to us:
Hi, Bert Show,
I need some advice on how to handle a certain situation with a friend of mine.
My friend and I have known each other for years. 5 years ago, we became roommates and that has been going smoothly. We’ve both been what you could call perpetually single. We are both in our 30s, but I’m nearing the edge, and she’s only begun. We’ve always been close and have done so many fun things together like vacations and day trips. Neither of us in the time we’ve known each other have had serious relationships.
About 6 months ago, I met a guy, and we started dating. He is wonderful and everything I could have ever wanted in a partner. The problem I’m running into is she has become very jealous of that relationship. She has struggled with her singleness for a long time. I’ve also been through that struggle, so I am sensitive to it, but lately it’s become harder and harder to sympathize with her. She sometimes has a backhanded or “woe is me” attitude whenever I bring up things between him and I, or something we may be planning to do. I find myself not sharing details with her because of her reactions. I know this relationship is heading towards marriage. She’s already worried about me moving out and not seeing her as much. I love her dearly, but it’s been very hard to navigate this side of our relationship.
How do I handle this? It’s a fine line being sensitive to her feelings, but also needing to live my own life. She has started counseling and admitted she is discussing her jealousy there, which I believe is a great start. It just doesn’t help me right now.
I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on this!