He caught his stepson in a very awkward situation with his girlfriend and doesn’t know what to do about it! They’ve never been very close…should he risk his relationship with the teen by snitching to his wife or keep it to himself?!
His email reads…
Hello Bert Show!
My girlfriend’s son just started dating his first technical girlfriend. Meaning, she comes over, and they’ve gone out together, they’re 16. I’ve been with his mom for 5 years. I’m happy for him, I want him to be more socially active, have friends, and see life outside of his bedroom…He’s a “gamer”. He’s very smart, straight A’s, a great kid that stays out of trouble, and keeps up with his responsibilities 95% of the time.
Well… the girlfriend came over the other day…I went downstairs, and his door was closed, knowing they were in there. It struck me odd, because I KNOW HIS MOMMA AIN’T HAVING THAT, like NOPE! NOT TODAY ISIS! And she’d cut that relationship off stat! It was very quiet while I occupied downstairs…his light was on. The TV in the common area was louder than it should’ve been. Me not hearing them converse, spoke volumes. After he opened the door I was walking by, I saw her hunched over putting her shoes on. He spoke in a different tone, and I picked up on his eerie body language. (I’m a very observant person. it’s my best way to relate to anything or anybody, regardless of the words being said, good or bad.)
Later that night my girlfriend brought the subject up on her own, and she said, “she’s a sweet girl, and always welcome to come over, and I told him, the only rule is that, “THEY CANNOT GO IN HIS BEDROOM, and they have to stay in the common area. I’m trying to be a really cool mom right now, and really proud of myself.” That meant, she’s trying to let her guard down a bit, and give him a “little more freedom,” wants him to be social, and have more friends, because she’s a very protective mother.
My eyes were bugged out, like crap, now I’m in the middle of this, and had no idea she specifically told him NOT to have her in the bedroom, much less with the door closed. If I knew that was said, I would’ve intervened. I pulled him aside the next morning, and said, “you’re putting me in a hard spot…did your mom tell you not to go in your room?” He replies, “yea…but I forgot.” I said, “You’re a straight A student, don’t play with me boy, you didn’t forget. I was your age before, and experienced a whole hell of a lot more by the age of 12, than you have at 16. I’m not gonna tell her, but don’t let this happen again.”
I’m caught between being wrong for not telling my girl, and knowing what it was like as a teenager. He and I are not close, but we don’t have those, “you’re not my dad,” vibes either…he’s respectful.
Your thoughts Bert Show…what would you have done, knowing they were either playing piano, and/or playing wind instruments?
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