Kristin and her husband, Bart, have been on a three-and-a-half year journey to try to get pregnant, from trying naturally to undergoing IVF. And finally…they can announce THEY ARE PREGNANT!
But as a member of the TTC Club (Trying To Conceive Club), Kristin will never forget the struggle and the emotional rollercoaster, which is why she penned this beautiful message, and why she thinks this listener’s heart-touching message is also important.
I’ve been a long-distance listener of TBS for many years. I started when I lived in Nashville and continued listening on the app when I moved to Philly in 2015. I've never written any of you before, but I feel compelled to share something with you after seeing your pregnancy announcement. First of all, CONGRATULATIONS! As someone who has been listening to your journey over the years, I feel like this is a win for all of us.
Here’s what I felt compelled to tell you… My mom died 3 weeks ago after a long battle with dementia. While I was home saying my goodbyes and helping my dad through the process, he and I had some really beautiful conversations, and I learned some things about their marriage, including the plans leading up to my conception. When my parents got married, my mom had two young children from her previous marriage, and my dad was a Staff Sergeant in the Air Force. They couldn’t afford another child so they decided to wait until he made Tech Sergeant to start trying. By the time he made rank, my mom was 35 years old.
Per the plan, they started trying as soon as that badge was sewn on. Again, my mom had already birthed 2 healthy babies, albeit she was in her early and mid-20s, but they foolishly presumed it wouldn’t take long for her to get pregnant again. It did. They tried for 3 years. They started trying in 1977. I was conceived in 1980, born March 6, 1981. I didn’t know how long my parents had tried for me until that conversation with my dad a couple weeks ago. He pulled out a Polaroid of my mom holding her pregnant belly that he had tucked away in his nightstand and said this was one of our happiest times. I can’t tell you how special and treasured that made me feel.
One day, you will share with baby Mattingly all that you went through for them to exist. How you agonized, but never gave up. And they will feel treasured and valued like I did and do. My advice would be to let them know as soon as they can understand, and while you and Bart are both still around to tell the story together.
I’m sure you’re getting a ton of messages from listener-friends right now so I’m not sure you will read this, but I just felt the need to share.