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Our listener’s best friend is going through a rough patch in her marriage. Her friend doesn’t feel that her husband is interested in her, and she’s dreading Valentine’s Day.
She wants to help by giving up her dinner reservations for her best friend. But is that a bad idea?
Here’s her email:
A very close friend of mine has been seriously depressed and frustrated in her marriage recently. She has been married for a few years. We went out for a girls night, and after a few drinks she was sobbing. She said she has never been so unhappy or lonely. She feels neglected and unappreciated by her husband. She says he’s always so busy or exhausted to even notice her. She said he spends anytime he has off of work either watching sports, hanging out with his friends or working on the refinishing of their basement. She doesn’t think he is seeing anyone else, because he doesn’t spend that much time away from the house, and he isn’t acting strange.
She just feels like he isn’t in love with her anymore or interested in her. She said she is dreading Valentine’s Day because she knows he is either going to forget or will remember at the last second and hand her whatever flowers were still left at the grocery when he gets home. She really feels like she’s at the end of her rope and doesn’t know what to do. She says she has tried talking to him, but he doesn’t seem to understand or agree. I think if he could just show her one really special Valentine’s Day, then she would feel so much better and maybe things may move in a better direction for them. He really is a good guy, but I do think he is taking her for granted.
Would it be out of line for me to call him and either be blunt with him or offer to help him plan something special for her? My boyfriend and I had reservations that we are willing to give up for them. What else can I do to make this Valentine’s Day special for her and maybe save their marriage?